Valentine special – Is he/she the one?

Valentines day proposal

Does God predestine our partner? Is there something such as a soulmate? Or is it something people made up? As we go through the session, it is imperative that we understand 3 things and keep them in mind.

  1. God is omniscient. He is all knowing.
  2. God grants free will.
  3. God cannot be fit into a box regarding the way He operates. He is sovereign.

With that in mind, lets move on. So is there such a thing as “the one”? Does God predestine our partner? Well, Yes and no. Let’s look at the law of predestination a bit in a crafty illustration.

We all know that God predestined our race, gender and genetic make up.

Psalms 139:15: “My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.” (KJV)

So I’ll use an illustrated example. Suppose there are only 26 people in the world. One with genetic make up A, the other genetic make up B, all the way up to another with genetic make up Z and if A comes into a union with B, they will have a child with a genetic make up of AB. Everyone is unique down to the fingerprints and no one, not even twins are exactly alike.

So now that we have person AB in the earth. Does that mean that God predestined A and B to come into a union? Not necessarily. On the surface, it may seem that way. But that’s not really the case. Stick with me and remember the 3 things we were to put in mind as we move through the session.

Remember, God grants free will. He does not force anything on anyone and so, A is free to choose anyone. So if A chooses and comes into a union with C, does it them mean that AB will not be born and God’s plans are now thwarted? No quite. AB will still be born regardless of the plans of A.

Proverbs 19:21: “You can make many plans, but the LORD’s purpose will prevail.” (NLT)

God is sovereign and not any plan of man can prevent his purposes from happening. If he wanted AB to be born, he will be born. Even after A marries C, he may later take B as a second wife and AB will be born. One thing is to be clear though. God did not manipulate the free will of A to come into a union with B just so that AB could be born. He is actually an advocate for one man – one woman relationships.

1 corinthians 7:2: “But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.“(NASB)

A and B may also actually be believer and non-believer, a union which God does not recommend and therefore would not advocate for.

2 corinthians 6:14: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (NIV)


God does not go contrary to his word. He only orchestrates things that are in alignment to his word. The thing is, he knew that A and B would come into a union. Remember point 3 above. He is omniscient. Stick with me.Try to think cross-dimensionaly. Try to think outside the box of time.

So Therefore, knowing that A and B would come into a union, he let AB enter into the scene through A and B. But he did not promote the union, neither did he manipulate the free will of A and B. A and B fell under his permissive will. God permitted it. He did not promote it. But He knew it would happen nonetheless and therefore brought AB into the earth through them. That is why no one is an accident. No one is a mistake in God’s kingdom. You are here as part of his grand master-plan and you are deeply loved no matter how you came into the earth.

Jeremiah 1:5 “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.” (NLT)

What we’ve used is just an illustrated example. There are many dynamics and variables that could come into the equation but the one we used cuts across the board and should provide a good understanding.

God did not necessarily predestine the relationships of A and B or A and C. So From looking at those logistics above, we can see that God gives us the freedom of choice and does not predestine our partner, especially if we fall into His permissive will. That quite covers the no answer I had given above.

But what about the perfect will of God? Is there someone who matches and fits you like a glove? Can God bring these two together? And are those who fell under God’s permissive will doomed? Let’s move on to part 2

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