Valentine special(part 2) – is he/she the one?

Couple seated with male spouse playing video games.

As we saw in part 1 God does not force anything on anyone and He gives the power of choice even if He didn’t really recommend a union, He is not a dictator and he will permit it, hence putting your union under the category of His permissive will. So are those who fell under God’s permissive will doomed? Let’s look at it closely.

Firstly, we should know that everything that is done outside of disobedience of the perfect will of God will definitely have negative consequences.

Romans: 5:19:”For as by one man’s disobedience many were made sinners, so by the obedience of one shall many be made righteous.” (KJV)

There are certain consequences one has to deal with when God does not advocate for the union. e.g. When an unbeliever and a believer marry. Now, this is not to say that believer+ believer unions are super-perfect without any issues, sometimes disagreements etc.. Actually, all Relationships and marriages bring together two unique and imperfect people and they still have to learn one another as they grow in love. But believer + believer unions are both walking in the same direction. They have a lot in common in light. As for the case of the believer and non-believer the incompatibility is vast and there will be greater trouble. With the exclusion of God in the equation per se, Non-believer + non-believer will still face a myriad of a challenges.

Psalms 127:1: “A Song of degrees for Solomon. Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.“(KJV)

A believer can look at a non-believer and reason, “oh, but I can get into a union and change them later”. That is a very dangerous place to be. You never know if tomorrow they will change or not

Proverbs 27:1: “Don’t brag about tomorrow, since you don’t know what the day will bring.“(NLT)

However, there’s a possibility that they still could change. As a matter of fact, It is written in God’s word that he twists and turns situations for the better!

Romans 8:28: “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.“(NLT)

That is the hope we have in Him and if anyone feels that they fell under His permissive will, keep trusting, praying and knowing that God can work everything out no matter how long it may seem.Now this does not give us leeway to get outside what He truly desires. It is not our mandate to pick out that verse and test God. The consequences of disobedience are there to be dealt with.

Luke 4:12: “Jesus answered, “It is said: ‘Do not put the Lord your God to the test.” (NIV)


Trying to put God to the test would be very unwise and the consequences do you more harm than good. The thought of divorce shouldn’t even ring in the mind in a means to try to save yourself as it brings even more consequences upon the initial consequences. God actually hates it. Let God be the savior.

Malachi 2:16: “For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.” (NLT)

But there is still massive hope and know that if the decision of marriage had already been made, God can still work and make everything more beautiful than you could possibly imagine.

Ephesians 3:20: “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us“(KJV)

He can make everything perfect!! Beyond what you can even imagine!! Keep trusting in him. That’s the beauty of the gospel. It is called the good news for a reason!!

As for those seeking God’s perfect will from the start, is there someone who matches and fits you like a glove? Is there a perfect-match? A soulmate? Can God bring these two together? Click here to find out.

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